Pioneer Single Girls

One of the things that bothers me most about being single is that there is no one to look to for advice. There's no one to sympathize when you're feeling lonely, no one to encourage you, no one to tell you that there's nothing wrong with you when you start doubting yourself. There's no one to ask about whether you'll regret not having children when you're older, no one to ask about finances for the single woman. I have plenty of married friends, and I am sure they understand my situation. They just don't have the experience or practical advice I'm looking for.

I have always had a tendency to admire those older single women that I've met. Even when I was younger, it wasn't the moms that I wanted to hang out with. It was the ladies who had the courage, the endurance, the ability to be single. Looking back, it makes me wonder if being single is always what has been in the cards for me. That thought makes me smile--that being single has always been something I admired. It makes being single now a little more solid, a little easier to deal with.

It's almost like dating trying to find other single women! Where do you find them? I'm sure they don't advertise the fact that they're single. It's still a social stigma to be a single adult woman over the age of 30 in my experience. The term Old Maid springs to mind, even though it isn't used very often any more. The implication is that there's something wrong with us, that we're someone to be pitied.

If someone knows, please tell me where the other single ladies are. Where are you hiding, ladies? Drop me a line so we can talk! I want to bend your ear, get some advice, ask how to cope with different things. Let's build a community of like-minded ladies.

I'm Single, So What?

I'm 30 and still perpetually single. So what? Who cares? Obviously, I do! You should, too. Yes, you. Don't turn around and look behind you! More and more often, my story is becoming the story of others. The shape of relationships is changing, and the age at which people are getting married is getting older. I'm not the old maid or the odd woman out any more--I am the norm.

However, society still tells us single girls that we're doing something wrong, that we're meant to be in a relationship. Everywhere you turn, the world is built in pairs and groups. Where does the single person fit in?

That's where I come in. Not that I consider myself an expert on being single. Well, maybe I am! I've been single much more in my life than I've been in relationships. I realize the lack of people speaking on being single. I miss the advice that comes from other people in the same situation. If my story can help someone or someone can help me, that's the whole point. If we can get a laugh along the way, even better!

Come along on my journey with me.